Sunday, March 7, 2010

dont ever ever.....!

it's actually dead simple, is it not?
i finally found the answers to why my relationship seemed so hard.

bila you sacrifice something for the person at the other end,
you should never ever ever :

1) ungkit balik

2) think that you're better than your partner just because you made that sacrifice
(mcm hello! tolong consider sikit, maybe the other person pun ada sacrifice, tapi unlike you, dia tak show it off)

3) feel that that person owes you something
(kata voluntarily! if you are sincere enough, there shouldnt be a sense of hutang menghutang. unless if u want to feel like a ceti, tak payah la nak rasa mcm they should shower you with extra attention sebab minggu lepas you bayar kan roti canai utk dia masa dia tertinggal wallet kat bilik)

that was my mistake.
i felt that i was doing more giving than taking padahal tak sedar diri that my bf at the time yang mcm ikut je demand i yang pelik pelik and layan je i call dia over the stupidest thing, mcm :

"Sayaaaaaaang. my favourite sandals putus! sekarang i nak jalan jalan takde kasut nak pakai. blablablablabla"

or macam

"You tengok lah gambar resume i yang ni! mana yang lagi okay ni. cepat la pilih. (padahal dua dua pose serious takde beza pun. )"

dan sebagainya.

Tapi i terbodoh sekejap (im sure everyone ada sampai that stage in their life kan?) and i didnt realize sampai la malam ni, that all the things that i did, they dint give me any rights to be bossy or nak demand lebih lebih.

Because, it will defeat the whole purpose of doing things SINCERELY, in the first place.

ok kanak kanak?
faham tak cikgu cakap apa ni?
faham?
good.

tapi i know that it's just human la for everyone to absorb a new info and lepas tu rasa mcm dapat revelation, tapi nanti lepas seminggu, terus lupa semua benda cikgu ajar.

penat ni cikgu type panjang panjang. hish.

heheh.
peace.
*buat jari peace sambil sengih sorang sorang*

20 comments:

joegrimjow said...

sandal pon klu bleh kite nak org tu tau klu putus

Merissa K. said...

kan kan kan. hahahah. i selalu yg mcm tu dulu. pagi makan cornflakes pun nak kasi tau. pointless gila whoot whoot.

Afiq Abd Malik said...

Natasha,

The bottom line is, be nice to each other, at all times.

Masa mengurat dulu boleh buat, kenapa sekarang dah lupa?

:)

aween mokhtar said...

Girl, that's soo spot on.Haha.
Especially in us girls (me included!LOL).
Tulis lagi more on this, I can learn a thing or two :)

nisa ~ shasha said...

ha ha.. true true!

tasha, im happy 4 u! :)

Merissa K. said...

Afiq :
you are indeed a guru. and terima kasih for that. :) i shall remember. *chant 'be nice' dalam kepala repeatedly*

Aween :
tapi betul kan? betul kan? i cannot believe i tak sedar benda tu all this while. takpe nanti guru ajar lagi, i pass on lagi kat korang. heheh.

Shasha :
eleh u pun yg happy dgn shanaz tu, i should be saying im happy for you! hehehe.

u happy for me kenapa? *grins*

hamlet said...

u r right. everytime a girl gives/helps/does something for me, immediately the air will change.

Just as u said, the feeling of owning something...

weird...

ryc: marriage life is superb! u hav someone to support u when fall and support them back.

Syaza Izzati said...

god..you'll never know a good thing till it's gone kan.sigh. it's been 10 months fer me. =/

nisa ~ shasha said...

happy la at least, u dgn dia try 2 fix things kan? :)
ngeeeeeee~
n dia dtg utp lepak ngn u kot!

GGK said...

i agree everything...

cuma satu je... its rather late for you to realize this.

sooo Whats your next move? Move on? and apply what ever you learned here with the next guy? ...or go back?

-=ggk=-

Merissa K. said...

Emy :
it sucks ey? mcm there shouldnt be a sense of ownership pun in the first place.

waaaa mi, i jealous gila kot. nak kahwin jugak! dedems! hahaha.

Syaza :
THAT i have to agree with! hahah. 10 months? i pray that u wont have to cukupkan a year of being single (i mean, if thats what u want la) haha.

ive lost count. :P

Shasha :
i guesssss. hahah. tho we've gone through this too many times that it's starting to feel like a routine. LOL.

GGK :
siapa kata its too late (oh you yang kata, heheh). it's never too late my boy, never too late.

im pretty sure theres a reason why i learnt this now instead of sooner.

the next move? no move. :) mengikut kata kata cliche orang : go with the flow.

tgk la what life has in store for me. sementara menunggu, guitar dunhill and buku ada nak teman kan. :D

s h a g o o said...

la la la la la~

NoOnA said...

heyy...
ermmm...i saw u last saturday kt fesco...u x kenal i,i suke care u tulis blog u nie...sume nye straight 4ward jek...

Merissa K. said...

shagoo :
ni menyanyi tiba tiba ni kenapa? heheh.

NoOnA :
laaa why la u tak tegur? :)
thanks doll. that means a lot to me. :D

Drum Kit said...

:D afik.. afikk.. :D

Merissa K. said...

afiq punya advice hebat kan? menenangkan hati dan perasaan. hahah

GGK said...

im flowing

Merissa K. said...

GGK :
ur flowing? FLOWING? ok i tak paham dah. hahah

lolahunny said...

hahahaha bayar roti canai sebab tertinggal wallet? macam familiar!! hahahaha

love love , your lesbian partner. you know who. xx

Merissa K. said...

hani,
u yang buat i question sexuality i in the first place, mana blh tak kenal. hehehehe.

oh and roti canai? ;)